UPDATE: The motion picture “Loving” is coming out in early 2016. I am unbelievably proud to have been a part of it.
Today, the U.S. Supreme Court struck down bans on marriage equality for all states. I congratulate them on a job well done, but I thought I’d take a few moments and jot down the reason why I’m in support of marriage equality.
I’m a straight, white-ish male. I’ll state that right off the bat. Why do you need to know that? Mainly so you’ll understand what I mean when I say that the constitutionality of banning gay people from marrying has absolutely no effect on me whatsoever. It doesn’t affect me one way or the other, so being vehemently against it makes no sense. So that’s part of why I support it, but not the main reason.
I have quite a few gay friends and family. They’re great people, and I love them for who they are, mainly because I don’t hang out with shitbags (as a general rule). I fully agree that they have the right to love whom they wish and reap all of the same benefits as heterosexual couples. That’s another reason why I’m in support of marriage equality, but not the main one.
The main reason that I support marriage equality is that today was actually the second time that the SCOTUS has ruled on marriage equality, and the second time they got it right. The first time? Loving v. Virginia, 1958. That’s right. Another ruling that had to be made in order to counter a backlash by bigots. In Loving, it was about the constitutionality of states’ rights to ban interracial marriage. Like today’s ruling, before Loving, there was no ban on interracial marriage. If a man and a woman loved each other, and wanted to get married, they could. But apparently, a lot of white and black folks had figured out that their better half weren’t necessarily of the same ethnicity as they. So, bigoted states (mostly red states) began banning the right of black men to wed white women, and vice-versa. Along comes Loving, and as we know today, the SCOTUS struck those bans down.
Why do I bring this up? Well, that’s because I, a white hetero male, am married to this lady:
Yep, that’s me! And her. And we have an absolutely beautiful infant son together. But that’s slightly away from my point. My point, and the main reason why I’m in support of gay people being able to marry, is this: what the hell kind of a hypocrite would I be if I bought into all the hype that gay marriage would erode the fabric of society, destroy the sanctity of marriage, et al, when that language was EXACTLY the same language that was used to argue against interracial marriage (which is a misnomer, by the way: we’re the exact same race [human], we’re just different ethnicities) back in 1958???
On top of all that, let’s be real for a moment, shall we, lunatic fringe right-wingers? The whole reason you really don’t want gay people to marry is because you don’t want gay sex to happen. Why not, you may ask? I’m glad you asked. Because it’s icky!!! It’s gross, it’s disgusting!! You’ve thought about it, pictured it in your mind, and it grosses you out. Right?
Okay, let’s go ahead and use that same logic toward some other things, shall we? Some people think that handling earthworms is icky. So let’s ban fishing! Some folks think that fish are disgusting, so let’s ban oceans! I, for one, think peas are gross. Let’s ban farms, and gardens! Heterosexual intercourse is pretty gross, with all of the body fluids everywhere, and the stupid faces we make in the middle of sex. Let’s ban that, too! Hell, our own gastrointestinal system is pretty nasty! So let’s ban being able to take a shit. Yeah, that’ll feel great after a couple of days!
You know what’s really icky, and causes a whole bevy of health issues? Being in a combat zone and having your buddy’s brains and guts get splattered all over you. Yeah, that’s icky. And it can cause people to quite literally go batshit insane. Let’s ban war.
Ok, actually, that last one is a pretty good idea, but you get my point. Banning things just because some people think it’s gross and don’t want to know it’s happening isn’t a valid argument. Get over yourself, and realize that, if you don’t want to think about it happening, DON’T!